Breakups are painful. You feel drained, depressed, and listless. According to psychologists, a breakup can even trigger a real existential crisis. The last thing you feel like doing is going to the office. Nevertheless, in everyday working life, it is rarely possible to take into account whether someone is suffering from lovesickness. As painful as the end of a relationship is, as a rule, a breakup is not a recognized reason to stay at home. Exceptions only apply in the event of the death of a partner. In this case, there is usually the possibility of being granted several days off by the employer. The employer decides whether the Special leave leave is granted. In addition, many collective bargaining agreements contain explicit regulations for such special cases.
However, the fact that it is not possible to get a sick note for lovesickness is actually a blessing for many people. Because the job provides the necessary routine, so as not to sink completely into one's own misery. This is also confirmed by psychotherapist Prof. Anna Schoch from Munich: "In this situation there is nothing better than a job that challenges you. Work is the best remedy."
Breakup as a career opportunity
The therapist advises not to view the end of a relationship only negatively. Instead, it should be seen as an opportunity to boost one's career. Because a breakup creates space to devote oneself to work with a whole new intensity. On the one hand, simply because of the free time that the end of a relationship brings and in which new projects can be initiated and overtime can be worked. After a breakup, you ultimately have to take less consideration of your private life and your partner's plans. On the other hand, a loss of love triggers a an increased striving for experiences of success, which can be fulfilled through work. Even small successes, such as preparing a meeting or giving a presentation, can help nurture the shaken self-confidence.
Anyone who is so strongly affected by severe heartbreak that they can no longer manage their workload should the conversation with the boss seek. One should not expect pity, but one can hope for understanding. Because even if a smooth workflow must be ensured, a good boss has leeway he can use. In most cases, an employee can, for example delegate responsibility for a whileFor larger projects, now may be the right time to introduce junior colleagues to leadership responsibilities. As soon as the crisis is overcome, the employee can return with renewed energy. However, seeking a private conversation with the boss requires a certain degree of trust.
